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From €135 · Service · In person Kink Reflection Coaching 1:1 A one-to-one coaching session for kinky people who want to understand their role, their desires and their patterns more clearly.Typical questions: What do I actually need from D/s? Why do I feel stuck… Kink Reflection Coaching 1:1
From €210 · Service · In person Couples Coaching – Kink & Relationships Coaching for couples and polycules who want to explore kink together or are working through questions in their relationship.Typical topics: different desires or kinks, coming out to a vanilla partner,… Couples Coaching – Kink & Relationships
From €170 · Service · Online Kink Reflection Coaching 1:1 – Online A one-to-one coaching session by video call for kinky people who want to understand their role, their desires and their patterns more clearly.Typical questions: What do I actually need from D/s? Why d… Kink Reflection Coaching 1:1 – Online
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From €240 · Service · In person Private Rope Experience (DCR) A private rope session in my own style, DCR – Dan's Creative Roping.We start with a conversation: what you are curious about, what you want to feel, your limits and your body's needs. Then I tie you –… Private Rope Experience (DCR)
From €239 · Event · In person · 20 Aug 2027 | 17:00 Sapphic ropeXchange – Shibari Weekend for Women Loving Women (2027) For a whole weekend we open a space on a houseboat in Berlin-Spandau for people who want to experience shibari in a sapphic context: cis and trans women (and enbies who feel they belong here) who love… Sapphic ropeXchange – Shibari Weekend for Women Loving Women (2027)
From €219 · Event · In person · 13 Aug 2027 | 18:00 · Members only menXchange – Shibari Weekend for Men* on the Boat (2027) The men*-only ropeXchange on the boat, organised by Dan Apus Monoceros. Relaxed, kinky and educational.On the houseboat Monoceros in Berlin-Spandau you can tie indoors and outdoors and enjoy a very sp… menXchange – Shibari Weekend for Men* on the Boat (2027)
From €219 · Event · In person · 06 Aug 2027 | 18:00 ropeXchange on the Boat – Shibari Weekend (Summer 2027) The ropeXchange is a shibari weekend for kinky rope enthusiasts and everyone who wants to become one, organised by Dan Apus Monoceros.Learn, laugh, rope: the weekend is about tying, and just as much a… ropeXchange on the Boat – Shibari Weekend (Summer 2027)
From €219 · Event · In person · 26 Feb 2027 | 18:00 ropeXchange – Shibari Weekend (Winter/Spring 2027) The ropeXchange is a shibari weekend for kinky rope enthusiasts and everyone who wants to become one, organised by Dan Apus Monoceros.Learn, laugh, rope: the weekend is about tying, and just as much a… ropeXchange – Shibari Weekend (Winter/Spring 2027)
From €89 · Event · In person · 07 Nov | 19:00 Safer (Hu-)Manhandling – Passion Fair Hamburg FULLY BOOKED – waitlist via danapusmonoceros.comA workshop on consensual rough physical handling of the sub during a session, taught by Dan Apus Monoceros at the Passion fair in Hamburg.Manhandling co… Safer (Hu-)Manhandling – Passion Fair Hamburg
From €39 · Event · In person · 06 Nov | 20:00 Kinkstarter Bondage – Passion Fair Hamburg A compact rope bondage workshop for beginners at the Passion fair in Hamburg, taught by Dan Apus Monoceros.We focus on what really matters when you start: simple, effective ties that are easy to learn… Kinkstarter Bondage – Passion Fair Hamburg

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My services are for

Women, Men, Couple, Non Binary, Trans, Gender fluid, Intersex

I offer experiences

In person · Online/Virtual

Age & gender

40s · Male · Non Binary

I speak

English, German

I'm Dan Apus Monoceros, kink and relationship coach and educator in Berlin-Mitte. I have practised and taught BDSM for around 25 years, at events and institutions across Germany and Europe.

Most people come to me with a question about themselves. What do I really want? Which role fits me? Why does our sex life feel stuck? In reflection coaching we look at the needs behind your desires, so you understand yourself better and know your next step.

In couples coaching I work with partners and polycules: different desires, opening a relationship, jealousy, rules and agreements, or simply finding words for what you want without ending up in a fight.

Topics I work with:
– dominance and submission, finding your role
– consent, negotiation and boundaries
– polyamory, open relationships and relationship design
– communication about sex and desire
– self-discovery and kink identity
– impact and pain play, CBT, slapping and choking, with a focus on risks and safety
– rope and manhandling (my rope style: DCR – Dan's Creative Roping)

Whatever we do, we talk first: about your wishes, your limits and what you need afterwards. Coaching sessions are conversations without physical contact. Practical skills are taught in separate private workshops and rope sessions.

Sessions take place in my studio in Berlin-Mitte or online, in German or English.

My qualifications

20+ years of experience

Reflection and couples coaching on kink, roles, consent and relationships. Plus private BDSM and rope education (DCR). In Berlin-Mitte and online.

Career highlight

Teaches regularly in Germany & Europe: Passion (Hamburg), Obscene (Karlsruhe), Darklands (Antwerp), School of Sex Therapy (USA). Creator of DCR, organiser of ropeXchange Berlin. JOYclub Sex Educator.

FAQ

Do I need any experience?
No. Many clients come with first questions, others after years in the scene. We start where you are.
What happens in the first session?
We clarify what brings you here and what you want to change. You talk, I ask questions and offer structure. At the end you know whether and how we continue.
Is this therapy?
No. I work as a coach, not a psychotherapist. If something needs therapeutic support, I will tell you and help you find the right place.
Is it confidential?
Yes. What you share stays between us.
Is there physical contact or sexual activity?
Coaching sessions are conversations. Practical elements such as rope or manhandling are part of separate workshops and sessions, always negotiated beforehand. I do not offer sexual services.
How do online sessions work?
By video call. You receive a link after booking. A quiet place where you can speak openly is enough.
Which languages?
German and English.
What if I need to cancel?
Cancellations up to 14 days before the session are refunded in full. Up to 3 days before, 50% is refunded. Later cancellations or no-shows are charged in full.

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