Helping men overcome sexual anxiety: meet Alex Gear

Tell us more about yourself?

I have been through one hell of a life journey so far: chronic shyness and anxiety, a life of addiction and suffering, relationship breakdown, fatherhood, business creations and failures.

Everything that has happened has made me stronger, more resilient and left me with an unwavering belief in people, opportunities and the magic of the human experience.

My pain has become my purpose. I am completely dedicated to helping men navigate their anxieties around sex, and I’m on a mission to create an army of good, safe, educated men who understand themselves and are able to relate to women in a healthy way.

What services do you offer on Sensuali?

I work with men struggling with fear, anxiety and shame around sex and intimacy. I take men through a process to eliminate performance anxiety and emerge as confident, fulfilled men with a healthy relationship to themselves and their sexuality.

What turns you on?

Feminine expression, softness, confidence, connection and sensuality.

What was your journey into this world?

As the eldest of four siblings, I was always the quiet, gentle, soft one with a general fear of the world.

Many years of bullying in my early years destroyed my confidence, and I built it up again through an identity based on drugs and alcohol. This was a mask, and it led to complete reliance on substances to navigate the world.

It was only after finding recovery in 2022 that I found myself, my feet and my place in the world.

What do the first 60 minutes of your day look like?

Coffee as soon as I wake up. Check messages, then more coffee. Another coffee, and then it’s content creation, networking and building my business serving the men of the world who are hiding and unable to express their unique gifts and expressions.

Then more coffee.

Why do you do what you do?

I suffered my whole adult life with fear and anxiety around sex. It affected every area of my life.

What is an unexpected pleasure you’ve discovered in your work?

The power of having a man to be honest, open and vulnerable with.

I can see the shifts happening and the clouds lifting in real time, right in front of my eyes.

What do you wish more people knew about the practice you specialise in?

I just wish more men knew that this kind of support exists!

So many guys suffer in silence for years and try to think their way out of their problems.

I want men to know that there is a solution, that through my coaching I can help ANY man heal, grow and thrive in their intimate lives. That whole lives can be transformed with the right support and guidance.

What’s your superpower?

A complete and unwavering commitment to my clients’ healing and growth.

Also networking. Pretty damn good at that!

We love vices. What’s yours?

These days I only have one: coffee.

But I am also partial to the odd psychedelic experience for the sake of some healing and wisdom.

Who are your sensual inspirations?

My partner.

I have to say my partner is the sexiest, most sensual, feminine woman I have ever known. She is my muse, the subject of my desire and my inspiration.

Any closing thoughts?

There are thousands of men out there who would make incredible, good, safe and committed partners, but they are avoiding sex, intimacy and relating because of fear and anxiety.

Yes, there are lots of terrible men, and it pains me that a lot of the good ones, who are so worried about giving a woman a good experience that the pressure cripples them, are avoiding intimacy or berating themselves for not being good enough.

I want to change that.

I want to provide the space for men to heal and grow into confident, pleasure-focused, respectful, well-educated men.

That is what I’m here to do.