Hello, I'm Emerald May.
My work is my ikigai and my dharma: my passion and my purpose.
I am so glad you found me.
Chronic conditions live in my own life, alongside being a cis woman, mother, queer, kinky, ethically non-monogamous, white and neurodiverse. Bringing all of that into the room alongside my extensive training shapes how I listen and the work we do together.
Living with a chronic vulvar condition can change how you relate to your body, to touch, to pleasure and to the people close to you. Peri-menopause and menopause can do the same, shifting desire, sensation and arousal in ways few people are prepared for. I support you to experience a deeper connection to your body, your pleasure and your relationships, at a pace your body sets.
Partners feel these changes too. So if you are a partner of someone navigating these changes, I have an understanding of the impact on you too. When one person's desire or access to pleasure shifts, the other can be left wondering where they fit, what is wanted and how to reach each other. Sessions are available one to one and for couples, so the two of you can find your way through it with honesty, humour, and with room for grief and everything in between.
Breathwork, somatic practice, Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent, Sexological Bodywork, Right Use of Power are the foundations of what we do together. Every session is trauma-informed, shaped by more than 2,000 hours of training as a Somatic Intimacy Coach, Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Breathwork Coach. My work is client centered meaning you decide what happens, what pauses and when to change your mind.
I work with clients for a 4 month journey for individuals and a 6 month journey with couples. This work is a commitment on a physical, emotional and energetic level, and it is worth the investment.
You can't do this work alone. Here is what one client shared in a recent Google review:
"If you are here reading this review, you are likely searching for help with an issue around sexual intimacy for which there is little support in our popular culture, or from your doctor, and probably your friends and family.
- She taught me new ways of thinking, of communicating, of being in relationship.
- She made me feel so SAFE to express things I not only have never told another soul but also many that I had never acknowledged to myself.
- Today, because of her help, my 45 year old monogamous, intimate relationship is thriving, resuscitated after working with her.
I have no doubt your experience will be like mine, believing that it was the best money you spent. Best wishes to you."
You'll find me in Portland, Oregon and online, and I travel back to my home town of London, UK yearly, and I travel to see clients across the US, including Los Angeles.
I look forward to welcoming you.
You are courageous!