Questions about: Communication & desire
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How do I say what I want in bed?
This is a great question because often we think asking for what we want means upsetting the other person. When in fact, getting the sex we want requires using our words not just assumptions or the slight movement in our bodies. Yes, asking
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
I don't feel turned on by my partner. What can i do?
Not feeling turned on by your partner doesn’t automatically mean the relationship is over or that you’re no longer attracted to them. Desire is influenced by far more than physical attraction. In fact things like stress, resentment
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Why do we keep fighting?
Couples rarely keep fighting because of the topic itself. More often, they’re caught in a cycle where both people are trying to have an important emotional need understood, but neither feels heard and so the pattern repeats itself. The goal
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
How do I share a fantasy with my partner?
Choose a low-stakes moment - walking, driving, lights off - not mid-intimacy. Start one size smaller than the real thing and see how it lands; trust builds in steps. Frame it as invitation, not verdict: 'something I've been curious about'
Erotic Photographer, Manchester 1 (1 answer)
Why does one of us always initiate intimacy?
Almost every couple has an initiator - it's rarely about who wants who more. Often the quieter partner desires just as much but fears rejection, or their desire needs warmth and time to surface rather than arriving on its own. The danger is
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
How do we choose a practitioner together?
Look at profiles together, out loud. Say what draws you in and what puts you off - that conversation tells you more about each other than any bio. Choose someone both of you feel at least 7/10 about; if one of you is hesitant, keep looking.
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Why is it hard for me to talk about my desires?
Talking about your desires can feel vulnerable and exposing. Many of us grow up without the language to express what we enjoy, or with messages that sex and pleasure are something to feel embarrassed or ashamed about. Also, past
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach 2 (2 answers)
How do we work on our communication?
Good communication isn’t about saying the perfect thing or never arguing but how you approach repairing together. It’s about slowing conversations down through tone and setting, getting curious instead of defensive, and expressing how you
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
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