Questions about: Libido & Desire
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What is it that I actually want in sex and intimacy?
I love this question because we often spend so much time focusing on what we think we should want sexually rather than asking ourselves what we genuinely enjoy. Many of our ideas about sex come from our culture, past relationships
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Is it normal for my desire to come and go?
Absolutely. In fact, sexual desire naturally fluctuates throughout life, and it’s completely normal for it to come and go and having periods of no interest can be completely normal. In fact, expecting your libido to stay the same forever
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Does my desire just work differently?
Yes, it might, and I love answering this question because one of the biggest myths about sexual desire is that everyone experiences it in the same way. In reality, desire isn’t one-size-fits-all, and there is so much complexity to it. Some
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
I feel numb during sex - what can i do?
Firstly, I am so sorry you feel this way about intimacy and sex. I would encourage you to understand better what feeling “Numb” means for you. Is it a lack of physical sensation? Feeling emotionally disconnected? Mentally checked out? Or
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Why has my libido disappeared?
Rarely for one reason - usually several stacked: exhaustion, stress, hormonal shifts, medication (antidepressants and some contraceptives are frequent culprits), an unresolved thing in the relationship, or simply a body you don't feel at
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Can stress make desire disappear?
Completely - it's one of the most reliable desire-killers there is. A stressed body is set to survive, not to open up; that's biology doing its job. Chronic stress also steals the ingredients desire needs: sleep, headspace, feeling playful.
Erotic Photographer, Manchester 1 (1 answer)
How do I reconnect with my sense of pleasure?
Start further back than you think - not with sex, with sensation. Pleasure lives in a body that feels safe and noticed, so begin there: warm water, slow stretching, music that moves you, food you actually taste. No goal, no partner agenda
Erotic Photographer, Manchester 1 (1 answer)
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