Questions about: Lost spark & reconnection
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How do i start to talk about intimacy?
Talking about intimacy can feel incredibly vulnerable, but that’s because it’s a conversation most of us were never taught how to have. We learn about careers, finances, yet very few of us are shown how to talk openly about sex, desire or
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
How do we reconnect physically?
Many couples make the mistake of only touching when they’re hoping it will lead to sex. Over time, even a hug or kiss can start to feel loaded with expectation, which can make the partner with lower desire pull away. Instead, focus on
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Can I fall back in love with my spouse?
If you’re both willing to invest in the relationship, there’s every possibility of creating a relationship that feels connected again. Often, people try to recreate what used to work when the goal should be to build something even stronger
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Why do I feel disconnected from my partner?
Disconnection can happen for lots of reasons and can be fairly common in long-term relationships. Over time, we deprioritise the relationship, sometimes through no fault of our own, simply because life gets in the way. One thing I encourage
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Can attraction come back in the relationship?
Yes - but not by waiting for it. Attraction fades when we stop seeing our partner and start seeing our routine. It returns when you experience each other freshly: watching them do something they're good at, seeing them in a new setting
Pleasure & Intimacy Coach, London 1 (1 answer)
Why have we stopped touching eachother?
Usually nobody decided to stop - it faded. A missed hug becomes a habit of not hugging. Often one partner pulled back after feeling rejected, and the other never knew. Touch also gets loaded: if every touch might lead to sex, casual touch
Erotic Photographer, Manchester 1 (1 answer)
How do we bring playfulness back into the relationship?
Playfulness dies under pressure, so take the pressure off. Plan something with no goal: a dance class where you'll both be terrible, a massage workshop, cooking with music on. Laughing at yourselves side by side rewires how you see each
Pleasure writer, Berlin 1 (1 answer)
How do i find the spark again in my relationship?
The spark rarely returns by waiting for it. It fades when you stop seeing each other and start seeing the routine, so the way back is fresh experience, not more pressure. Do something unfamiliar together, side by side, where you are both a
Pleasure writer, Berlin 1 (1 answer)
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