POWER & PRESENCE - Ethical Dominance training
Do you want to feel more comfortable in your power, more confident taking the lead, and better able to adapt your state to what's unfolding in front of you?
POWER & PRESENCE is an embodiment-focused training course for people interested in exploring Ethical Dominance as part of their lifestyle.
Some people are drawn to this training because they want to engage in D/s dynamics in safe(r) ways. Others come to build a healthier relationship with power in their lives more broadly.
The way I see it is that kink is a tool through which we can all (Dom/mes and subs alike) delve into our relationship with power. This kind of exploration has the potential to transform us in ways we might not expect, and this course will prepare you to do this ethically and authentically.
THE COURSE:
This is a live, online course delivered via Zoom.
This course is the outcome of two decades on my own journey around this, from people pleaser to Professional Dominant, AND from working with hundreds of people as they consciously explore kink.
I believe we ALL have the capability to step into Dominance in a way that is authentic. If you don't feel that you fit into the box of a stereotypical Dom or Dominatrix, don't let that hold you back (I don't fit into that box either!) The world needs more people who can wield power responsibly in their own unique way.
My style of Dominance draws upon what’s already within me - you might like to think of these as traits, archetypes, or parts.
The aim is to support you in becoming a whole, integrated human rather than simply teaching the “technical skills” of kink. It's less about the activities we do and more about having the ability to change our own state and invite others to do the same through our presence, embodiment, and language.
The structure is designed to provide ongoing support as you learn to embrace and integrate the different parts of yourself that might be called upon to empower you.
My work is influenced by the Wheel of Consent, the Right Use of Power, conscious kink frameworks, embodied ethics, Jungian psychology, some aspects of Sexological Bodywork, the DeVinery Method for understanding sexual fantasies, and many skills that I've been taught and have gone on to develop, such as verbal domination.
At the heart of this course is the COMMUNITY - it's about learning and practicing together, and sharing our own experiences so that we can see we are not alone in the challenges we might have around power. It is a powerful space to be in, and I can't wait to explore with you on this next journey💜
WHAT WE COVER ON THIS COURSE:
THIS IS ABOUT EMPOWERING YOU SO THAT YOU, IN TURN, CAN CAN CREATE POWERFUL EXPERIENCES FOR OTHERS ✨
Some of the topics covered include:
- POWER - what it is, what gets in the way of us stepping into power, why power dynamics are necessary, and how power alters us
- The role, responsibilities, and fundamental skills of Dominance, including the challenges of this role that nobody seems to talk about
- Submission - why do people want to submit and what do they get out of it, the paradox of submissiveness and how people navigate this (often without realising), and why we should be aiming for all subs to be empowered
- My proprietary framework for Dominance that enables ANYONE to step into this role
- Psychological Domination - the deeper meaning of Dominance, connecting to a sub's psyche, how to think like a Dom/me
- Shadow play and the vulnerability of both sides
- Setting the scene - ways into a D/s scene
- Verbal Domination
- The building blocks of a great scene to create tension and excitement, make scenes meaningful, and modulate intensity
And much, much more! You'll come away with high-level theory and framework, plus practical scene elements that you can take straight into your play. There will be plenty of opportunities throughout for you to have embodied experiences of power - through solo exercises and practice time with your peers.
WHAT'S INCLUDED?
- SEVEN x ONLINE GROUP SESSIONS via Zoom. These are 3 hours long, and each focuses on a different topic, with space to practice and take part in live spotlights with your fellow participants, as well as ask questions, and share your own experiences.
- Weekly homework or practices - you will receive weekly prompts for research, self-reflection, or practical exercises, which will deeply enrich your learning.
- Our POWER & PRESENCE Community - you will have the option to join a private group chat with other participants on Telegram where you can share the outcomes of your weekly home practice, receive input from your other peers and me, build connections with others, and find people to practice with!
- There will also be an option to add extra 1-to-1 sessions with me online or in-person at a discounted rate while the course is running, as past participants have found these helpful.
THE SCHEDULE
Our online classes will take place at 1.30 - 4.30 pm (UK time) on the following dates:
Wednesday 13th January
Wednesday 20th January
Wednesday 27th January
Wednesday 3rd February
Wednesday 10th February
Wednesday 17th February
Wednesday 24th February
We will meet via Zoom. The link to join and other details will be sent to course participants in a welcome email before the first session. Sessions will be recorded and made available to view for 2 weeks after the class date, should you have to miss any of the live classes.
PREREQUISITES
We ask that all participants join at least the first or second session live so that the group gets to know each other and so that we can together create a safer container for this work.
I love that people are drawn to this training from all different kinds of backgrounds - from kink newbies to Pro Dommes with decades of experience. To ensure that everyone shares the same foundational knowledge as we dive deep into our relationship with and expressions of power, I am only accepting participants onto this course if they have already completed the Getting into (Ethical) Kink course OR equivalent training e.g. some courses from The Kinky Classroom, Wheel of Consent, workshops on communication and negotiation skills, and understanding of implicit power dynamics.
WHAT PAST PARTICIPANTS HAVE SAID ABOUT POWER & PRESENCE
"The course completely transformed my understanding of power - in myself, in relationship, in the wider world. I discovered that connecting with myself, knowing what I need and want from an empowered place, actually allows me to connect more with others. The secure holding of the space allowed for openness, vulnerability and rich learning within a diverse group - hard to do online! Thank you for this unique, thought-through and life-changing programme." D, Bristol
"I have found my own unique way of playing and experimenting with many different facets of power… Being allowed to hold the trust of others was an honour and the space was created to enable that to happen, even with people I'd never met. A far cry from the sweaty dungeons of the past! Thank you Lex. I think this is your magic - you help people find precisely their own personal way and not just in this work" Laura L., Cheshire
ABOUT YOUR TRAINER
Lex is the embodiment-focused sex and kink educator behind Pleasure Rebels. They guide individuals and groups in explorations around topics such as consent, sexuality, pleasure, intimacy, identity, relating, and power. Professionally trained as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Embodied Facilitator, and Certified Dominatrix (among other things), a big focus of their work is around how kink - done ethically - can be used as a route to empowerment and us becoming whole, integrated humans.
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Intro to Shibari - rope retreat
Are you interested in learning more about Shibari, the Japanese art of rope bondage? Perhaps you've seen some photos, videos, or even live performances and it's caught your eye, or maybe you're looking for a new hobby that has some interesting practical applications... Come and join our introductory workshop and give it a go! This is a one-day workshop taking place on alongside The Rope Immersion at our gorgeous rope day retreat. Participants for both events will be together for core parts of the day, but will break away for workshops that are aimed at different experience levels - this event being for beginners, and The Rope Immersion for people with knowledge of the basics. We will all get to enjoy a day of rope in a beautiful location, and plenty of opportunities to practice your new skills and mingle with fellow rope fans.This beginner-level workshop will address the most pressing questions, such as:Why do people like being tied up?!How do we bind our partners or ourselves in a risk-aware way? How do we tie knots that don’t fall apart?Once we’ve established safety and core skills, we’ll start building on them by tying in a more free-flowing way, and looking at how we can approach Shibari in different ways depending on the reasons why we are tying.Our aim is to create ties that feel good from inside and outside of the bondage. What to expect:We will include a mixture of learning through discussion, theory, demonstrations, and hands-on practice.This workshop is designed for beginners and people relatively new to rope. You're equally welcome if you've never explored rope bondage before, OR if you've dabbled a bit and want to bring together what you've been learning in a more structured way.You don't need a partner to attend. Some of the workshop activities are more easily done in pairs, but a significant portion of the exercises can be done solo through self-tying. It is also possible to partner up with another participant if you'd like, and we will give you some tools to support conversations around negotiating consent. If you already have a friend or practice partner who you know is coming, you are also welcome to stick together and practice with each other throughout. We are welcoming of all genders, sexualities, and relationship orientations.Our schedule for the day - at a glance:10.30 - 10.45 Arrivals - give yourself time to orient and settle in before we begin.11.00 Introductions and some lighthearted ways to connect11.30 Workshop part 1 (90 minutes)1.00 Lunch break and Rope Jam - free time to wind down, tie or take photos, or maybe watch a performance from the team2.30 Workshop part 2 (90 minutes)4.00 Break and Q&A with the team4.45 Workshop part 3 (90 minutes)6.15 Wrap up6.30 Event finishes** The running order and timings are all subject to change if we need to make adjustments **The venue:We will be returning to the same gorgeous venue that we have used for our previous two Rope Immersions. It is a jaw-droppingly beautiful private venue on the edge of the Peak District National Park. We will have exclusive use of the venue, except for the owners who will be on site throughout the day.There are 3 acres of private woodland to enjoy, including a natural stream. You are welcome to explore the outdoor space but at our own risk - it may be wet and muddy - it is the UK, after all!About the team:Lex (any pronouns), your host for the day, is the embodiment-focused sex and kink educator behind Pleasure Rebels and The Kinky Classroom. They guide individuals and groups in explorations around topics such as consent, sexuality, pleasure, intimacy, identity, relating, and power. Professionally trained as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Embodied Facilitator, and Certified Dominatrix (among other things), a big focus of their work is around how kink - done ethically - can be used as a route to empowerment and us becoming whole, integrated humans.Christian Red (he/him) is a rope/takedown teacher based in Nottingham who has been teaching since 2012. His focus as an educator is giving people tools and ideas to express themselves by breaking complex topics into simple ideas. Christian Red's involvement in the kink community has lasted 22 years so far. In recent years, he has taught at Prague Shibari, Athens Rope, Anatomie Studios, Rope On!, Rope Office Hours, String Fling, UKREX, and Oxford Peer Rope. Christian is a regular guest teacher for Pleasure Rebels workshops.EntwinedStar (she/her) loves meeting diverse, sadistic, and creative minds and that's part of the attraction of rope for her! She has been active on the UK rope scene for around eight years, teaching in Nottingham and learning from incredible riggers and models from across Europe. Rope brings out EntwinedStar's exhibitionist side, and engages her sexuality, masochism, and enjoyment of degradation. She adores the energy that she takes from rope and how that leads her to challenge myself.Tied For Thirst (he/him) is a professional rope bondage, nude art and kink photographer, with an adaptive style focused on enhancing emotional and sensual scenes with unique composition and dramatic lighting. After developing an obsession with rope, as both a rigger and a model, he turned his decade of photographic experience to documenting the beauty of shibari & kink and the connections found in power and vulnerability.Fennel (she/they), a.k.a The Fenwitch, is a qualified life coach (empowerment, relationships, attachment styles), workshop & event facilitator, speaker, writer, Mindfulness trainer (MBSR), and practicing witch. They have been working with personal development, health & wellbeing, mental health, spirituality, and Emotional Intelligence for 30 years (in the corporate world, conscious communities, and in personal/private practice). They lead (with a lot of help from gorgeous souls) the sex positivity community Vermilion, that encourages awareness of, and co-education in, autonomy, authentic relating, consent & boundaries, neo/tantra, various therapeutic modalities, inclusivity, diversity, and conscious kink & BDSM.
The Rope Immersion
We are back for our third Rope Immersion! Escape with us to a stunning location at the foot of the Peak District for an extra special day retreat for rope fans. You can join educational workshops, watch performances, enjoy some free time to practice or explore the grounds, and get your (rope-related!) questions answered. Our photographer TiedForThirst will be on hand should you wish to have some gorgeous photos to take away of your ropey creations. This is a one-day event taking place alongside the Intro to Shibari workshop. Participants for both events will be together for core parts of the day, but will break away for workshops that are aimed at different experience levels - this event being for people with knowledge of the basics, whereas the Intro to Shibari is aimed at beginners. We will all get to enjoy a day of rope in a beautiful location, and plenty of opportunities to practice your new skills and mingle with fellow rope fans.Our schedule for the day - at a glance:10.30 - 10.45 Arrivals - give yourself time to orient and settle in before we begin.11.00 Introductions and some lighthearted ways to connect11.30 Workshop 1 (90 minutes)1.00 Lunch break and Rope Jam - free time to wind down, tie or take photos, or maybe watch a performance from the team 2.30 Workshop 2 (90 minutes) 4.00 Break and Q&A with the team 4.45 Workshop 3 (90 minutes)6.15 Wrap up 6.30 Event finishes ** The running order and timings are all subject to change if we need to make adjustments **More info on the workshops:Workshop 1: Unbarred ShibariShibari has a lot of iconic ties, but we will show how we can use a combination of munter hitches, intention, and body manipulation to make bondage that suits our body and mood. Workshop 2: Tree Rope Trees are elegant and strong - perfect for binding our partners to. We will briefly discuss tree selection, and then show how borrowed rope techniques can create stable and flexible ‘hardpoints’ to bind our partners to.We will then introduce several ideas for how to position our partners for mutual enjoyment.Orrrrr… (if it’s too damp/cold for tree rope or there are too many grizzly bears outside!), we will instead have an indoor Sadistic Rope Lab We will pitch a wealth of ideas at you, showing different ways that you can explore cruelty in the realms of shibari. From fast and brutal to long, drawn out slow burns we will show you how to explore cruelty with your partner.Workshop 3: Teacups and teppuosThe rifle tie is an iconic Shibari technique which resembles a stick slung across the model's back. We will explore this traditional tie as well as our own less strenuous variations: the teacup tie. Across the day you will learn:• The History and Purpose of different ties - Learn about unique ties, their origins, and why they are great for creating striking and functional rope work.• Safety First - Pick up key safety tips, learn how to avoid (unintentional) discomfort or injury, and how to communicate effectively with your partner.• Step-by-Step Tying Techniques - We will break down each process so you can confidently build a strong and secure tie.• Exploring Movement and Support - Try different positions and learn how body placement can affect balance and comfort.• Trust and Connection - Good rope work is about more than just technique so we'll be emphasising the importance of communication and trust building to create a positive experience for both you and your partner.• Troubleshooting and Adjustments - Learn how to fix common mistakes, make adjustments on the fly, and ensure everything stays safe and sustainable.Prerequisites and considerations:This event is designed for people with at least a basic level of tying experience . You are welcome to join all of the things in the schedule, but you are not required to! We actively encourage you to choose how you would like to participate - which can include taking additional breaks or observing during hands-on practice time. You are welcome to come in a tying pair or solo. For the elements that are intended to be practiced in pairs, we will invite you to pair up on the day and negotiate what you each feel comfortable with. We are welcoming of respectful adults of all genders, sexualities, and relationship orientations. The venue:We will be returning to the same gorgeous venue that we have used for our previous two Rope Immersions. It is a jaw-droppingly beautiful private venue on the edge of the Peak District National Park. We will have exclusive use of the venue, except for the owners who will be on site throughout the day. There are 3 acres of private woodland to enjoy, including a natural stream. You are welcome to explore the outdoor space but at our own risk - it may be wet and muddy - it is the UK, after all! About the team:Lex (any pronouns), your host for the day, is the embodiment-focused sex and kink educator behind Pleasure Rebels and The Kinky Classroom. They guide individuals and groups in explorations around topics such as consent, sexuality, pleasure, intimacy, identity, relating, and power. Professionally trained as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Embodied Facilitator, and Certified Dominatrix (among other things), a big focus of their work is around how kink - done ethically - can be used as a route to empowerment and us becoming whole, integrated humans.Christian Red (he/him) is a rope/takedown teacher based in Nottingham who has been teaching since 2012. His focus as an educator is giving people tools and ideas to express themselves by breaking complex topics into simple ideas. Christian Red's involvement in the kink community has lasted 22 years so far. In recent years, he has taught at Prague Shibari, Athens Rope, Anatomie Studios, Rope On!, Rope Office Hours, String Fling, UKREX, and Oxford Peer Rope. Christian is a regular guest teacher for Pleasure Rebels workshops. EntwinedStar (she/her) loves meeting diverse, sadistic, and creative minds and that's part of the attraction of rope for her! She has been active on the UK rope scene for around eight years, teaching in Nottingham and learning from incredible riggers and models from across Europe. Rope brings out EntwinedStar's exhibitionist side, and engages her sexuality, masochism, and enjoyment of degradation. She adores the energy that she takes from rope and how that leads her to challenge myself.Tied For Thirst (he/him) is a professional rope bondage, nude art and kink photographer, with an adaptive style focused on enhancing emotional and sensual scenes with unique composition and dramatic lighting. After developing an obsession with rope, as both a rigger and a model, he turned his decade of photographic experience to documenting the beauty of shibari & kink and the connections found in power and vulnerability. Fennel (she/they), a.k.a The Fenwitch, is a qualified life coach (empowerment, relationships, attachment styles), workshop & event facilitator, speaker, writer, Mindfulness trainer (MBSR), and practicing witch. They have been working with personal development, health & wellbeing, mental health, spirituality, and Emotional Intelligence for 30 years (in the corporate world, conscious communities, and in personal/private practice). They lead (with a lot of help from gorgeous souls) the sex positivity community Vermilion, that encourages awareness of, and co-education in, autonomy, authentic relating, consent & boundaries, neo/tantra, various therapeutic modalities, inclusivity, diversity, and conscious kink & BDSM.For full details and tickets, visit: https://www.tickettailor.com/events/pleasurerebels/2304913
Intermediate Shibari online course
Ready to enhance your existing Shibari skills and build more elaborate ties? Join Christian Red and his co-teachers in The Kinky Classroom for this fully online course, delivered across 4 weekly sessions. What to expect:Live, online classes each week featuring discussion and theory, demonstrations and walk-throughs, time to practice, and the opportunity to have your questions answered. This course is designed for people who have already completed The Kinky Classroom's Intro to Shibari or Shibari for Beginners courses (online or in-person) or equivalent classes covering the fundamentals, including rope safety. To get the most out of this class, we recommend you are comfortable tying a single-column tie, double-column tie, and x-frictions.This course can be taken by a tying pair, or can be self-tied.All live classes will be hosted on Zoom and will also be recorded, allowing you to watch them back if you can't attend live or wish to revisit the content. Recordings will remain available for a period of 3 months from the date of recording. Ticketholders will also have access to a private Discord server, where you'll find links to live classes and recordings, weekly optional skill-building tests, and a digital quick reference guide that breaks down the rope skills covered during the classes, as well as opportunities to chat with other course participants (if you like!) and share photos of your practice ties for feedback. Ticketholders will receive the invitation link to Discord in their confirmation email.You are not required to have your camera on during the class, but we encourage you to do so if you would like to receive feedback on your ties and, well, it's just kinda nice to see some of your faces too! We welcome adults of all genders, sexualities, and relationship orientations.The schedule:Week 1: Double-layered structures (Tuesday 3rd November)We will bulk up our ties, making structures like the futomomo and chest harness more sturdy and less stretchy. We will explore different methods of expanding the thickness of our ties.Week 2: The inline single-column tie (Tuesday 10th November)The inline single column tie (or hojo cuff), is a way of creating a secondary cuff after you’ve made a single column tie. This will allow you to tie feet together, arms behind the back in various different shapes, and a version of the demon tie.Week 3: Hip ties (Tuesday 17th November)This week we’ll show different methods of tying the hips: ways of binding with lots of handles, or hinging the hips forward.Week 4: Crossing diamond ties (Tuesday 24th November)Diamonds make for beautiful patterns but they also allow you to create ties that shape to the body and are super stable.Each class will run from 7 - 9 pm (UK time). What to wear and bring:Wear comfortable clothing that allows you to move freely. If you plan to have your camera on, please wear underwear at least. All participants should know how to check for signs of nerve damage. If you would like a good resource for this, check out Knot Without Risk: https://www.christian-red.co.uk/knotwithoutrisk.You will need 3 pieces of rope (each measuring around 8 metres), and we recommend having safety shears whenever you’re tying. If you don't have enough rope, we have added the option to pre-order some from us, which will be posted out to you. Please note we can currently only take rope orders from the UK.About your hosts:This course will be led by Christian Red on behalf of The Kinky Classroom and Pleasure Rebels. Christian is a rope/takedown teacher based in Nottingham who has been teaching since 2012. His focus as an educator is giving people tools and ideas to express themselves by breaking complex topics into simple ideas. Christian Red's involvement in the kink community has lasted 20 years so far. In recent years, he has taught at Prague Shibari, Athens Rope, Anatomie Studios, Rope On!, Rope Office Hours, String Fling, UKREX, and Oxford Peer Rope. He's a regular guest teacher at The Kinky Classroom and has also appeared on The Kinky Coffee Break podcast. In 2025, Christian created the free rope safety digital publication Knot Without Risk. It has since been translated to 8 languages. Christian has also released over 100 rope video tutorials and has been a frequent contributor to the online platform Shibari Study. Christian will be co-teaching with AstroUnicorn, Flux Endure, Mika Kitten and Sapphicating.
Getting into (Ethical) Kink - an online course for beginners
Are you curious about kink? Maybe you've seen or heard about some things that pique your interest but don't know where to get started. Perhaps it all just feels a little bit too intimidating. This course from The Kinky Classroom has been designed with you in mind!I believe that kink has so much to offer us - as a way to get to know ourselves better, develop new (hugely transferable) skills, connect with people, and PLAY - and yet, I think the very nature of it can make it all seem a bit daunting. It can be a BIG leap to go from reading about something online to rocking up at a dungeon or kink party. This course brings together some of the most critical pieces of information and tools that I would pass on to someone looking to dip a toe into this world.Some of the topics covered include:What is kink (and what can it be)? How can kink be good for me?! What makes something kinky and how do we make it ethical?Consent, negotiation, and communication as fundamental skills An introduction to playing with power Aftercare - what and why?Where to go from here and what to look out forFor full details and tickets, visit: https://www.tickettailor.com/events/pleasurerebels/2372075
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POWER & PRESENCE - Ethical Dominance training
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