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My services are for

Women, Men, Couple, Non Binary, Trans, Gender fluid, Intersex

I offer experiences

In person · Online/Virtual

Age & gender

40s · Female

I speak

English, Spanish

My work is warm, imaginative and deeply embodied. Together we might explore desire and sensuality, fantasy and role play, power and surrender, confidence, intimacy—or simply what it feels like to become more fully at home in your erotic self.

I specialize in BDSM and power play, eco-eroticism, goddess worship, sacred sexuality, erotic shamanism, spiritual intimacy and sensual trance.

I am especially drawn to the places where sexuality meets imagination and transformation. As a former professional actress with training in hypnosis and sacred theatre, I love role play and the possibility of trying on different characters, energies and ways of being. My approach also draws from Somatica®, Hakomi, Buddhism, sex magic and earth-based wisdom.

Our time together can be tender or playful, exploratory or intense. We discover what feels alive and meaningful for you, with curiosity, creativity, communication and consent at the center.

I'd love to support you in creating a more pleasurable and erotically alive life—whether that means exploring your deepest desires, learning to communicate what you want, deepening intimacy, expanding sexual confidence or discovering entirely new sides of yourself.

I especially love working with:

younger men discovering and awakening their sexuality
older men exploring erotic expression as their bodies and lives evolve
women wanting to claim their desires and sexual aliveness
couples rebuilding emotional and erotic connection
LGBTQ+ people exploring love, desire and new ways of relating
people longing for intimate, meaningful and powerful erotic connection
curious, courageous people wanting a safe space to explore, express and play

If something here awakens your curiosity, I'd love to meet you.

With love,

Ixchel

My qualifications

11–15 years of experience
1 qualification

I have been practicing somatics and body-based awareness for almost 15 years. In the last 6 years I have been centering pleasure, eroticism, play and desire into my work. I love working with people to help them make life sexier, and supporting them in having their wildest sexual desires met.

Education and training

  • I am a board certified Sexologist,

Career highlight

I am a group leader for the Somatica Institute (R) of sex and relationship coaching. I have specialization in BDSM coaching and role play.

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FAQ

What is a session like with you?
We spend the first 20 minutes where I just listen to you. Why you wanted to reach out and what you are looking for. Then we use 10 minutes co-designing how I can best meet your needs in our session. That can be anything from a role play that meets your hottest desires, exploring your fantasies in a guided meditation, or being a thought partner to help you meet your sex needs in connection. We can explore any blocks that might be come up for you, or internal judgments and create a container of excitement, play and arousal that embraces all of your desires without shame.
Can I meet with you in person?
Yes! I sometimes see clients in person in Pahōa, Hawai'i. First we will do a few sessions on zoom to make sure we are a good fit.
What turns you on?
Ohhh, I love this question!! So many things: eco eroticism (talking about being in nature, being sexy in nature, erotic experiences with nature) goddess worship (worshiping the divine feminine aspect through the earth, creator, or embodiment through people) power play (I love to be in control, I love to be taken over with someone else's power and I love the dynamism of switching around!) alchemy (turning old wounds or harms into beautiful erotic moments of healing and transformation) performance and exhibition (I love fantasizing about being in front of people and witnessed in my eroticism) connection with nonhumans (I also love imagining beings from other dimensions and sensual encounters with them!) vulnerability and transperancy (It is a turn on for me when my partner is vulnerable with me, it makes me feel arousal and a sense of closeness and safety)
What are your boundaries?
Amazing! I love this question also, so hot! It helps create a sense of safety for me in our connection. My boundaries are always evolving. Checking in about boundaries is a really important part of my practice because they may be different from moment to moment! We will spend some time in session before we do any erotic play discussing boundaries for both of us. if you have not done this practice before it can be really fun and sensual and I would love to teach you!

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