Sex and intimacy coaching - understand what you want and how to experience it
TypeService
FormatOnline
Experience a powerful private coaching journey (1-2-1 or with a partner) to transform your sexual life.
You are unique and so is your sexual history, ideal sexual future, your life situation and the pace with which you are comfortable addressing these topics.
Gift yourself the time to deeply explore, at the pace which suits you and with the help of coaching techniques and resources I tailor to your learning style and needs.
Understand your sexual self like never before, break free from past shame and conditioning, and be liberated to explore the pleasure, excitement, learning, bonding and joy which great sex can bring you.
Sessions take place over zoom.
" Ruth is an excellent coach because she is authentically non-judgmental, knowledgeable, patient, intuitive, and has a deep, calming, almost hypnotic presence that delves through defense mechanisms and blocks. I have had experience with a wide range of coaches (and even therapists) and she's the best of them. " Zoe, 44
How it works
- 1Once you click I am interested, RuthRamsay will be notified by email
- 2You will be contacted to set up a date and time and let you know how to pay, if applicable
- 3Please email us at [email protected] if you have any questions or issues with your booking
- ✦Enjoy your experience!
More services & experiences I offer
Other ways to work with RuthRamsay
Online striptease lesson
Do you want to feel in touch with your sexual spirit, confident in your body and empowered with a new way to communicate physically?
A striptease lesson can be a deeply transformative experience, enabling you to access sexual energy which may have been suppressed for years. It's also creative and fun!
[Please note: this is an educational experience not an entertainment experience]
Each lesson is 90 minutes and is tailored to you.
So much more than a 'copy me' lesson - I combine elements of coaching in the pre-lesson prep to help you discover and express your erotic self. You will receive a tip sheet and technique video afterwards. Lessons take place over Zoom, so are available wherever you are! Learning online works great for beginners. My testimonial from Petra, below, is from an online lesson.
"In the beginning of the lesson I became aware of the areas where I needed to practice self-compassion and self-acceptance, rather than allowing my inner critic to lead the experience. With Ruth’s guidance the inner critic transformed into to a stable, sensual erotic presence. That presence had a power which was deeper than I expected. Even though I have practiced conscious sexuality practices, I was not used to extending and holding my sensual erotic presence in the field around me with conscious intention. I learned how to radiate it out from me, rather than saving it for moments of direct intimate touch with my partner, and felt a deeper connection with myself as an erotic being. The lesson also created a new awareness around being able to convey non-verbal messages through erotic dance. I found it powerful and fascinating!" Petra, 46
Understanding Your Sexual Mind
You're striving for more pleasure and fun by buying the latest suction vibe and subscribing to that hot movie app... but neither are doing much for you. You've got a collection of used-once toys gathering dust under the bed and a confused brain - why aren't these things 'working'? "What's wrong with me? Maybe I'm just not that sexually sensitive...".
But have you ever explored what's INSIDE - your sexual mind and who you truly are sexually? Rather than what the app and toy manufacturers and influencers tell you will do it for you?
That's what you'll explore in 'Understanding Your Sexual Mind'. Give me 90 minutes of your attention and I'll give you deep insight into what actually makes YOU tick. Join hundreds of past viewers who are now creating epic sexual experiences, now they understand what matters most for them (it's different for everyone).
Look forward to a new understanding of sex and of your own routes to pleasure. Through this workshop, you will:
Learn where your beliefs around sex come from
Understand how this affects your behaviour
Appreciate the role stress has in sexual response
Explore your ‘erotic blueprint’
Decode your mind’s secret messages about your peak turn-ons
You will receive a workbook to fill in during the workshop, to create your own unique roadmap to more pleasure.
"I had never thought about sex in quite this way until I took this workshop. My mind is blown! I understand myself so much better and many mysteries of what has been going wrong in my sex life in the past are now solved. I look forward to putting what I have learnt into practice in my next relationship." Mylee, 31
"As a man I have been made to feel I should 'know it all' and been shown by television and p*rn how I have to act and what I should want. That has never quite felt like a good fit for me. This workshop has helped me feel so much more in tune with who I really am. Bits of it were quite emotional. Filling in the workbook was great as it made me really think about how the lessons apply to me. My whole approach to sex has changed for the better." Marcus, 38
Sex & The Autistic Brain
In sex, knowledge is power. With diagnoses for autism sky-rocketing, how can this information be used to help us and/or our partners have more pleasurable sex? Join adult sex educator Ruth Ramsay and The No Bullshit Life Coach Helen Calvert, for a presentation on this topic.
Helen and Ruth cover:
How being autistic can create additional challenges to a pleasurable sex life
Overcoming these challenges, for better-than-ever experiences
Helen's own story
Why autistic people may be drawn to BDSM
How to initiate conversations with partners
Where to go for specialist support (UK)
"Many thanks, Ruth and Helen, for the Sex & The Autistic Brain webinar. I watched it live, then my wife and I watched the recording. We paused it a few times to talk, then talked about it for over an hour afterwards. This was her first formal exposure to the topic. I've been working on myself for several years to better understand and develop myself, and have picked up a little here and there about neurodivergence, but nothing as comprehensive or relatable as this webinar.
What an eye opener for both her and for me! When Helen was describing her experience, about 75 per cent of it totally resonated with me - it is me. The material about kink and BDSM helped a lot - I am not vanilla, whereas my wife is.
Hearing the material come from you two helped my wife to understand, more than just me explaining it to her. Thanks again!" David
How To Pleasure A Vulva
Want to know how a woman* can experience her highest peaks of ecstasy while in bed with you? Then this presentation is for you! 90 minutes full of actionable strategies, arousal science and mindset shifts. Reframe “making her cum,” into supporting her to experience her greatest pleasure possible. From mindset to arousal science, from anatomy to communication, via sex toy tips and why she’s faked orgasms in the past (but won’t feel a need to with you)... Ruth will cover all this and more - including the number-one passion-killing thing NEVER to say to someone with a vulva. Do you find yourself thinking “women tell us again and again what not to do… Please tell us what to DO!”? This presentation promises just that. Women and other vulva-owners welcome – you may learn something about your own arousal and needs. Get ready to be enlightened, encouraged, informed and inspired. "Outstanding. Life-changing. Just - wow. Why didn't someone tell me this stuff years ago?" Neil, 32 "I was so impressed with this webinar! It had humour, authority and authenticity. Quite a bit of the science was new to me - it was pleasingly precise. Why isn't this stuff taught in schools? It would save some people a lifetime of heartbreak." Nathan, 45 "It was great to hear Ruth talking and opening up about sex and arousal from a woman's perspective. It got me thinking about past sexual encounters and how my partners might have felt during the experience, and what I might do differently now, with this new knowledge. The stuff around communication is something we can all benefit from and would go a long way towards building a deeper understanding in the bedroom." Ben, 31 "This webinar was bloody brilliant! As a female I really enjoyed it, learned a lot and found it super-interesting. I would be so thrilled if I heard a guy had been on this course - total turn-on, to know he genuinely gives a damn about the woman in his bed." Jacqui, 41 [*Please note: The use of the word 'woman' in the headline, rather than 'people with vulvas who have been socialised as women', is aimed at bring this event to the widest possible attention of the target audience of heterosexual men. Ruth acknowledges not all people who identify as women have vulvas, and not everyone with a vulva identifies as a woman.]
The Connection Playbook For Couples
"Rather than rediscovering something that was lost, it's like we've found something new that we never had before..."
How can we improve our sex life?" This is the most common question I get asked by couples.
There's no one answer. Your situation and desires are unique. Maybe you have young children and busy jobs, or you're retired with time on your hands. It might be that you're comfortable talking about sex together, or you've never discussed it. You may have disability or chronic illness to take into account. A large budget to splash on sex toys and holidays, or none. Maybe having regular sex is your goal or maybe you have that and want to spice things up.
I will help you understand what will work best for YOU, and how to put it into practice.
My Connection Playbook For Couples contains the exercises I see work best in my couples coaching practice. PLUS a 20-minute introductory video of what I find couples most need to hear. Fill in the Playbook together to create your unique roadmap to the sex lives you desire - then enjoy making it happen!
"It is hard to know where to start, when talking about sex. The Playbook gave us a framework to follow. We sat together and felt like we were a team approaching the exercises, rather than sitting opposite each other like opponents, which is how we tried to talk in the past (without success!). Even just watching the introduction video together, resulted in more conversation and closeness than we've had before." Eva & Max, 31 & 36
"If you can't actually have Ruth sat on your sofa with you guiding your conversation - we wish! - her Connection Playbook is next best thing. We were already fans of her work so felt safe and calm, downloading the Playbook, and watching the starter video. We are taking the Playbook slowly - each section opens hours of conversation. Already how we show up in bed is different - we share our feelings, we make requests, and we laugh a lot more!" Priya and Thomas, both 35
Sex and intimacy coaching - understand what you want and how to experience it
- Four hour-long sessions on zoom, with pre-session prep and post-session follow-up by email. Ruth's workshops and products at a 50 per cent discount £650
- One hour-long session, with pre-session prep and post-session follow-up by email £180
- Five hour-long sessions on zoom, pre-and post-session support by email, weekly check-ins, plus access to Ruth's catalogue of workshops and products £1100
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