Erotic Identity & Desire Mapping
Discovering who you are erotically is about understanding how desire lives in you — emotionally, relationally, somatically — and what it’s really asking for.
Many people come to this work feeling a quiet tension: fantasies that don’t quite fit, arousal mixed with shame, a desire to be seen or guided without knowing why, or a sense that their erotic world is richer — and more complex — than the scripts they’ve inherited.
Erotic Identity & Desire Mapping is a structured programme to explore this complexity consciously. We work with curiosity, language, and embodied awareness to understand what activates you, what soothes you, what feels safe, and what feels charged, without pressure to perform, escalate, or act anything out.
This is not fantasy roleplay, and it’s not about pushing limits. It’s about making meaning of your sexuality, integrating it into your sense of self, and restoring choice where there may have been confusion, guilt, or split parts.
This work supports honest dialogue around unspoken desires, mismatched rhythms, or hidden fears, allowing your erotic world to exist without immediately needing agreement or resolution from a partner.
This programme is for you if:
- You sense there’s more to your erotic self than you’ve been able to name
- Your fantasies feel meaningful, confusing, or emotionally charged
- You want to explore desire without shame, pressure, or obligation
- You’re seeking clarity, integration, and self-trust — not performance
Different session formats are available, from introductory mapping to deeper blueprint work.
Read about a client's journey here: https://www.sexuntold.com/post/the-art-of-being-seen-an-erotic-self-discovery-journey
How it works
- 1Once you click I am interested, sexuntold will be notified by email
- 2You will be contacted to set up a date and time and let you know how to pay, if applicable
- 3Please email us at [email protected] if you have any questions or issues with your booking
- ✦Enjoy your experience!
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Erotic Identity & Desire Mapping
- Erotic Identity Programme (4 x 45 mins) €220
- Introductory Erotic Mapping Session, 45 mins €70
- Erotic Blueprint Deep Dive (2 x 30 mins) €100
Free cancellation applies — arrange directly with the practitioner. A free Sensuali account is needed to message & book.
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